Many people don’t want to be in a long distance relationship because they believe it cannot work. Well, you need to know that there are so many factors that have to work together just to make any type of romantic relationship work. If you can ask any couple in a long distance relationship, you might be surprised to discover that they are as happy as those who are physically together. To make a romantic commitment last, there must be effort, optimism and determination from both parties. A long distance relationship can be joyful and a beautiful page in the course of your relationship.
Long distance relationships can be challenging, but if you follow the best tips, your relationship will blossom no matter how many miles you are away from each other.
- Communicate regularly
Communication is very important in a relationship, whether it is long distance or not. However, communication in a long distance relationship should be done regularly and not excessively. You need to find the best time to chat. This would require you to figure out when is the best time to keep in touch with each other. Many couples in long distance relationships think that they have to talk for so many years in a day just to compensate for the distance between them. It doesn’t work that way. You need to communicate at the right moments. Be sure to find those right moments.
Also, form of communication matters. Try to be more creative than just Facebook messenger or WhatsApp. Why not try write letters?
- Be creative
Being creative ensures that your conversations are never boring. You can try to be creative in the lines that you use every day. You can make an effort to record some audio message during the night. Send each other pictures and short videos from time to time.
- Plan something that you both can look forward to.
In a long distance relationship, you need to make plans from time to time that you both can look forward to. You can set a definite date on where you are going to meet up again. This often brings a sense of excitement and gives you a sense of assurance. There are so many things that you can plan, perhaps book a hotel and spend time alone watching your favourite movies or maybe plan a trip together or a romantic date.
- Never make your partner feel unwanted or alone
This is a very terrible feeling in a relationship and it can break any form of a romantic commitment. When you are fighting or having an argument you should avoid statements that will hurt your partner or make them feel you don’t really care about them. When you are angry with each other, just be careful about your choice of words. If you disagreed on something, don’t let your partner feel alone.
- Be honest with each other
A long distance should be all about transparency and honesty more than just making a good impression. You need to be real with each other so that you can know whether or not you are a good fit for each other. You need to talk about your feelings, fear, jealousy, insecurity or just anything. Avoid dealing with things alone, but be open and honest with each other.
- See it as an opportunity
The best way to deal with something is to take it as an opportunity to learn. You can view a long distance relationship as an opportunity to get to know each other better. Distance is truly a test of your love for each other. You should not think of the miles between you two as something that is pulling you apart, rather believe that this is an experience that will make you stronger together. If you can learn how to live apart then you will want to live together.
- Talk dirty with each other
Dirty talk that creates sexual desire us one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire keeps you wanting each other and ensures that you never drift apart. Can you imagine a long distance relationship without sexual desire? How will you be glued to each other despite being miles away from each other? Sex is a biological and emotional need. You need to keep it very much alive by sending each other texts sexual provocative descriptions.
- Do things together
If you are not physically together you can find creative ways to do things together. These days, you can actually go, for walks together, watch a video on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time, cook or shop together. You can also sing to each other on Skype. Do you really have an excuse not to do things together in a long distance relationship?
- Have a goal
You will not be in a long distance relationship forever. Eventually, every couple needs to settle down and live together. So, you need to know what you want to achieve in the relationship, how long you are going to stay apart, what future you want in your relationship. You both should plan together and have the same goals. Having the same plans and the same goals ensure that both of you are working together in the same direction towards a common future that includes each other.
- Find new things to talk about
Talking about the same thing every day is boring and you might get tired of each other. Most couples in long distance relationships might find it difficult to find things to talk about apart from how their day was. There needs to be an effort from both of you to find new things to talk about.
- Write to each other
Writing to each other sometimes is an effective way of keeping a long distance very much alive and sweet. You can write letters or long emails. Writing allows you to express yourself differently than you do when you are talking or chatting on the phone. A letter or long email gives you more space and time to reflect on your feelings for each other. They can actually become treasured keepsakes in the future.
- Make visits to each other
Visits are a must in every long-distance relationship. You spend most of the time away from each other and you yearn for each other. Visits ensure that you finally get to meet to fulfil all the sweet things in a relationship like kissing, going for walks together, holding hands, watching together and many others.
- Practice trusting
Being apart from each other can make you feel insecure sometimes. You might find yourself doubting everything from who your partner is with at a particular, whether they are staying faithful to what they feel about you. Unless your partner has given you a reason not to trust them, you need to choose to trust.
- Make your partner feel you are in the relationship together
In every relationship, you need to make sure you’re doing your part to make it work. You should make your partner know that you are both together in the journey through thick and thin. Every challenge that comes your way in the relationship, you have to face it together and avoid blaming each other if things do go according to plan.
- Do similar things
There are plenty of similar things you can do with your partner who is miles away from you. You can recommend movies, books, TV shows, music, magazines and many others to each other. Doing similar things give you new and fresh things to talk about. Your conversations will always be lively.
- Avoid situations that can be tempting.
There are things that you can do which can be very tempting, whereby you might find doing something that you may regret later. If there are things that you know if you do them they are going to displease your partner don’t do them, or tell your partner beforehand and reassure them. You should avoid hanging out with a girl or a guy from your past who has been flirting with you.
- Set some relationship ground rules
Both of you need to discuss what you expect from each other when you’re apart. Talk about what constitutes a commitment. When you set some ground rules you will save a lot of conflict and heartache in the long run because you will avoid doing things that can take the other party by surprise.
- Enjoy your alone time and time with friends and family
In a long distance relationship, you have an opportunity to enjoy your alone time as well as your time with friends and family. Your world should not completely revolve around your partner. You have you and you should learn to enjoy your time. You have your friend and family too. You don’t always have to do things that involve your partner.
- Don’t stonewall
Stonewalling is a long distance relationship killer. Stonewalling is actually using silence as an escape or a weapon. You use it to control the situation by simply refusing to engage your partner. This can be very frustrating on your partner whereby you leave them second-guessing and with self-doubt. Also, you should not allow your partner to give you the silent treatment.
- Learn to recognize and control your own emotions.
Long distance relationship has its ups and downs and intense emotions. There are times when you feel very excited, joy and a lot of happiness and there are times when you feel intense loneliness, doubts, fear and uncertainty. This calls for you to recognize and manage your own emotions which will be very good for your relationship.
- Learn to ask good questions and listen well.
When you’re talking with your partner you need to ask good questions a listen carefully to them. Good questions help you understand your partner better.
- Follow each other’s social media activities
Social media has made it easier for couples in long distance relationships to connect with each other and follow each other’s social media activities. you can like each other’s photos on Instagram and Facebook, tag each other, share things on each other’s walls and so on.
- Find the best messaging channel to stay in touch
Texting is the most common way of communication between couples. You need to find a good messaging channel that allows communications beyond just texting and emoticons. You need something with extra features and is easy to use.
- Have a keepsake
A keepsake can anything from your partner’s favourite shirt to their favourite mug. Wear their favourite shirt or drink from their favourite mug whenever you want to feel a little closeness to your partner.
- Know each other’s schedules.
This helps you know when your partner is busy or free so that you talk to them at the right time. You don’t want to disturb your partner when they are busy at work or in the middle of a class.
- Be positive always
Positive energy keeps a long distance relationship going and alive. Whatever challenges come your way face them together with positive energy knowing that time is coming when the wait will be over and you will be physically together.
Hopefully, these tips can help you learn how to be in a relationship that is perfect for both you. keep it lively even through challenges.